Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

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I will say the nice things first--I thought the exercises toward the beginning of the book were really useful and helpful.

I have also given more than I take and have said “yes” to things I really wanted to say “no” to just to appease another person and be helpful. However, it served as a good reminder to review some things again with great points, but honestly, I stopped about 3/4 of the way through because I was just ready to be done with it. I no longer needed to convince every person who came across me or my message that I was a good, worthy person. However, until this book, I simply had no clue about the psychological and emotional damage that a lifetime of cultural, social, and religious indoctrination will do. I can honestly say without a doubt, that I am now the MOST assertive person I know, and I mean that with all the honesty in my heart.It's so long and 2/3rds of it is recycled Tim Ferris (who I hate) and Tony Robbins and all the other douchebags who teach people how to be assholes and not do things they don't want to do. he gave so much encouragement, so many kind words that i didn't know i needed to hear, and the combination of all of these things gave me the courage to really start changing myself and my life. He is diving deep, though subconscious limiting believes and brings to light the very deep motives that makes one believe something is deeply wrong with him and provide actionable steps out of it.

You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches. Create real, deep, and authentic connections with friends, colleagues, family, and anyone you'd like! This book holds a lot of truth to it and I have applied a lot of what I read to get out of wanting to satisfy others only to have left myself unhappy.This book as made me incredibly assertive, REALLY spiked my confidence, lowered my anxiety, and even lessened my stuttering. Sometimes--not always--you have to do things you don't want to do because that's what community and friendship and family involves. it doesn't hold the secrets of the universe and it won't give you all the answers you're looking for. now I’m just on the 30-day action plan section which I’m gonna follow through with and report back on.

This book speaks directly to the soul of the reader and while there are plenty of different souls out there in the world. At this point, any new pain or discomfort I feel, the first question I ask myself is, “what could be upsetting me in my life right now? i have spent a large portion of my life worrying that i'm too selfish, but after reading this book i am now more fully aware that i'm not selfish enough. Voice disappointment, don’t let people INTERRUPT you -all those golden rules about conversational etiquette are rarely followed and people will interrupt you at work, school and personal life. Not Nice is for people like myself who struggle to be assertive and direct and tend to take the more polite route, often at our own expense.You might have a 3 or even 4 star experience that way, especially if you relate to the author more than I do. I have the right to say “no” to anything I don’t want to do, for any reason, without needing to justify it or give an excuse. The audio book was very long, as others have stated, but I think this is the type of book that you have to listen to a little bit at a time to take in the lessons. If there is one thing in my entire life I could change, it would be reading this book much earlier in my life.